Tension and escalation is survival; they call it the war room for a reason. The hunter gatherer brings home resources, but if you can't leave that tension behind when you walk through the door to tuck your kids in, you have a problem.
Stress isn't personal, it's practical, and there isn't much room for empathy in a survival state.
Twenty minutes. No pitch. A conversation about where your team is, and whether this is the right investment.